changing.

found this while browsing thru my old emails.
sent this to someone before, and never posted it up.
and after re-reading it, I think it's worth sharing for :)

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to have a relationship with someone gives you a benefit.
to know yourself better, with the help of someone special, who is willingly to help you change and become a better person.
bear with your bad side, let you know about it, and talk to you nicely about it and how WE can fix it :)
acquaintances and normal friends, if they happen to see your bad side, will just walk away from you without letting you know about it.
by having someone special, they let you know and learn how you usually interact with others and how they feel about it.

changing does not mean that we have to be an ideal person according to that someone special.
but becoming a better person without having to put on our mask, with a purpose of pleasing others only.
changing, with a motivation to make our beloved ones happy, not just our dearest someone special.
because when that someone special leaves, we will still have our beloved ones as a motivation for us to become a better person.

Theodor Seuss Geisel said, "Do not cry because it is over. Smile because it happened."
ending a relationship is never pleasing to people, but cherish the relationship because it has given us lessons :)
at the end of a relationship, we will think where we did wrong, an action of unknowingly self-introspection.
if we finally found our bad side, we will try to change, and by doing that, we eventually will become a better person, who is worth of someone better that the previous.
worth of someone special who will bear with you, even in your worst condition :)
when it happens, then forever is theirs.

thanks for making me a better person.
vee.

unfold 2

another good piece of work from jinnyboy :)

it scares me how it is so real.
and at the end, when it comes to farewell, it is just as heartbreaking for both parties.

Thought Catalog - Breaking Up is Just as Heartbreaking

quoting from above post:
"That said, I am unbelievably tired of the idea that being the one to leave is so easy. It's not. People don't break up because they enjoy doing it or because they have a list of one-night stands to get through (usually). They do it because they value themselves and their time too much to waste on something irreparable, and because they don't think a temporarily broken heart is quite as bad as a potentially broken future."

vee.